If you want to experience drama at its best, then adopt a couple of pre-teen girls for the afternoon. I recently had this experience with my daughter and a couple of her friends.
From the moment they found myself in the car, I started to hear such things as:
"Everybody flunked the test."
"He said he liked me and it was the most effective day of my whole entire life."
"OMG...that was so embarrassing mom. Please don't wave at the high school kids."
"I will never, ever understand math."
"You NEVER take me shopping."
"I don't have anything to wear."
The drama continued for the duration of the car ride.
It reminded me of the drama queen in many of us (especially women who struggle with emotional eating and body image issues).
The adult drama queen says such things as:
"I have fallen off the wagon."
"I'll never, ever be thin."
"Everybody can eat what they want but me."
"I am this type of failure."
"OMG...did you see me trying to operate? That has been so humiliating."
Over the years to be a lady and experiencing womanhood, I came to understand that people all have a crisis queen that lives within us. It only becomes a challenge when she is running the show. Dramacool
So, here really are a few methods for living at peace along with your inner drama diva:
1. Go through the drama, instead of from the drama
When you discover yourself being swept up into a remarkable moment, simply notice what's going on. Observe how the emotions build, and then notice how you're tempted to act. Would you observe drama adds a complexity to the specific situation?
2. State the Facts
Drama is judgment of the facts. In place of saying, "I made a 74 on the math test," a crisis queen says, "I am this type of failure. I will never, ever learn math." Or, instead of saying "I ate a case of Oreos," she will say, "I have fallen off the wagon, and I'll never, ever be thin." Try stating just the reality of the specific situation, without judgment or negativity.
3. Prove your drama queen wrong
The inner dramatic likes to sensationalize things, but why not challenge her only a little with proof. For example, when she claims that you will never, ever be thin, find evidence to prove her wrong. Find others who have done what you are attempting to do or find reasoned explanations why you can be thin.
4. Give her the stage
Your drama queen just really wants to be heard and seen. Give the poor thing 5 or 10 minutes each day to accomplish her thing. I want to schedule in drama time when I will complain, exaggerate, cry, or simply just step out of my beautiful life for some moments to obtain completely trapped in drama, but I return and close the curtain.
5. Take her to the movies
Most of us crave only a little excitement inside our lives. The problem occurs once we use our lives while the stage for unhealthy drama to unfold. To entertain that element of you who craves a large production, try taking her to see a great show or read a great, trashy novel. You are able to leave feeling satisfied without completing mucking up your life.
